Quit your 9-5, start your own business, have 4 streams of income, monetize your hobbies. Work hard, but not too hard. Grind 24/7, but ALWAYS prioritize self-care. Love yourself, but also fix yourself. Rest when you’re tired, but be disciplined enough to not be tired. Get an education. You need your degree! But remember, school is a scam so don’t waste your time. Buy my digital course on how to make 6 figures in one day! Wake up at 6 am. Go to bed at 9. Drink lots of water, but too much water is actually bad for you. Go to the gym. Never skip the gym. Eat healthy. Stop buying junk food. Meal prep. Treat yourself! But save. Treat yourself! But why are you spending money when you don’t own a house? Settle down with one person you love but there are lots of fish in the sea so don’t get tied down. Go on many dates! Don’t trust anybody. Money is everything. Love is dead. People suck. You should be a millionaire by now. Plan your future, but stay in the present.
The chatter is endless, contradicting, and overstimulating. Somewhere along the way, we were pressed to do things a specific way. Apparently, there’s a wrong way to live your life and we’re all culprits.
The beauty in the human experience stems from how we’re all leading completely different lives. To be different is encouraged. It takes stepping away from the norm to see just how much is out there. There’s no one plan or structure we’re meant to follow. You can never be “behind” in the story you create.
Patience and time are 2 powerful forces. When we trust that things truly will happen when they’re meant to, we stop taking away todays joy with tomorrows worries. Worrying is the thief of time. It offers no real solutions. In place, it gives us stress, anxiety, and places unnecessary doubt.
The unpredictability of our lives poses a threat to our control- which is why we struggle with releasing and allowing things to just flow. Wanting to be in charge of every aspect of our lives is understandable, but unrealistic. We can only craft our reality to a certain extent.
In resisting your circumstances, you block your blessings. To be in tune with your timing is to trust in the process. The idea that you need to have it all right now is making you miserable. Questioning why you don’t have what she does, or accomplished what he has, is an insult to your experience. Comparison has one path that always leads to unhappiness. There is no rush.
There is more to life than what you have and what you achieve. Your reality is also determined by the connections you make along the way, the hobbies you practice in your free time, the books you read, the shows you watch, the words you speak, and the love you leave. That we can control. Every piece we craft along the way fits into a greater puzzle. And it means more than you know.
There are so many lingering projections out there of what your life should look like by a certain point. But everything is easier said than done. We’re all dealt scarily different cards in this lifetime. What comes easy for one person is a struggle for the next. So, why are we normalizing so many different versions of how we “should” be living our lives; the things we “should” do?
There is nothing normal or “standard” about the human experience and we should not submit ourselves to things that don’t align with us. That will only set us farther apart from where we’re meant to be.
I commend those who simply just find the energy to get up and go despite their circumstances. Sure, life may not be as luxurious and aesthetic as our vision boards, but it’s real- and it’s a start.
Like a river knows there is no hurry, it will get there eventually.
Realistically, we’re all just trying to survive. Any solace we can find along the way is a reward in itself. That small glimmer of validation that peaks out at us when we’re in the moment is reminding us that we’re okay. It’s okay to take a break from worrying about tomorrow to enjoy the luxury of today.
Entering adulthood is something I was not prepared for at all. There are all these rules and regulations; non-official declarations from those who feel they got it right. And anything aside from their “right” is wrong. I spend hours racking my brain about how thin the line is between what I want to do and what I should do; whether I’m on the right path or wasting my time.
It is exhausting and limiting to subject yourself to someone else’s reality. Your reality is created by the lifestyle you lead. There is no right or wrong.
I don’t lead a picture perfect life, but being perfect isn’t the end goal. Leading a life that provides me with the love, happiness, and security that I crave is all I’m asking for. While I don’t know what form that will present itself in, or when it will present itself, I find comfort in knowing that every day I wake up is a day of progression, and you should too.
